Snapshots: Brian style

We pulled up to the bank drive thru last week and Brian asked me, “How do you do this?” I replied “What do you mean??” He proceeded to tell me that this was the FIRST time in his life he’d ever been in a bank drive thru!! He was super fascinated and kept talking about what a good design this was…oh my goodness that “technology” hasn’t changed in at least 30 years Brian!

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These are his favorite socks. That’s Nolan Ryan. I will only let him wear them with jeans (he’s usually wearing them Sundays)

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But one day he somehow got out the door looking like this:

I pretended I didn’t know him.

Brian: “The 3 sports I genuinely follow are: baseball, nascar and Bachelor.”

I’m pretty sure they aren’t allowed to do this. The middle child in me gets stressed out by the youngest child in him (he’s good for me…!)

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Who needs the box (or a glass), go straight for the bags after a long week! ūüôā (Classy.¬†Have I mentioned he’s a NASCAR fan??)

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This was the first year he hasn’t taken a Wiffle ball bat with him on the Katy Trail. ¬†So he improvised.

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While Brian was gone riding Katy Trail, Berkley found this turtle after t- ball practice and insisted I send a picture to Dad.

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Brian replied with recreating the same picture with the turtle he caught.

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He’s helping coach SP’s softball team. They are the A’s and since we all know he only has Astros hats (and probably more of them than I have shoes…), he had to improvise. He printed that out and then duct taped it on there. I thought it was just a joke, but he wore it again this week to her game too!

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I have no idea what he’s doing in these. Maybe one of the girls was teaching him a dance move?

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What Brian didn’t mention in that NASCAR post…

One of the things I love most about Brian is his passion. He doesn’t do things partially. If he’s in, he’s all in.

Let me explain.

After going to NASCAR with friends, he’s now not just a fair-weather, semi-fan; he’s obsessed.

Here he is searching for books at the library.

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Here’s what he checked out (he’s reading and fascinated with the “Driving with the Devil” book- it’s a history of America with emphasis on birth of NASCAR)

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Here’s what our van looks like currently (that’s Kyle Busch’s¬†number):

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Here’s what he asked for for his birthday, NASCAR matchbox cars (he got two: Kyle Busch and Danica’s cars. Fun fact, Kyle Busch is Kurt Busch’s little brother, so they call him “Shrub”…get it? Little Bush? I think that’s why Brian likes him, they are both the little brothers)

Here’s what our kids play: NASCAR. The stuffed animals she told me are her “pit crew”

(poor girl was upset about something, but trying to hold it together!)

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He’s even made us watch Days of Thunder and Talladega Nights

The kids all want to be NASCAR drivers for Halloween. They’ve already discussed how they will use their batting helmets as their racing helmets!

They also all have their favorite drivers: SP’s is Danica Patrick (she’s the only girl driver), Becks’ is #55 (he’s a slow car!) and Berkley roots for #22 Joey Logano cause that’s Shephard’s favorite car and Shephard is her favorite! ūüėČ

First Time at NASCAR

NASCAR at Kansas Speedway May 2016

I’ve always had a distant interest in NASCAR. During Seminary and the first years at Redeemer Laura and I would nap with NASCAR on between morning and evening worship. We’d kinda pay attention when there was a wreck and even had a favorite driver in Tony Stewart. However, since the races are normally on Sundays we’ve never been able to pull off going to a race and it’s just sat there on my bucket list of things I’d like to experience.

Over the years I stopped watching races at all and vaguely knew some of the racers names.¬†Then this Spring our good friends Brandi & Kyle were able to get us tickets for a Saturday race on May 7th in Kansas City. Which had me pretty pumped until I learned Berkley’s dance recital was the same night. So I did what any good father would do and I went to her dress rehearsal before telling her I’d be skipping her first recital to watch rednecks race around a track with her brother.

NASCAR at Kansas Speedway May 2016

Above you can see our seats and below you can see how the whole track is actually in view. I didn’t realize that when watching on TV.

First thing I learned was it’s loud, like really really loud. I was warned so we had noises muffs for Beckham, but I thought I’d be fine. Lap three I went and bought earplugs cause wowzers it’s loud.

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Second thing I learned was it’s awesome. I was pretty hooked and having Kyle there to answer questions about stuff was very helpful.

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Third thing I learned was this guy behind me did not think it was as awesome as I did. His sister next to him read a book the whole time as well.

This guy was not as intrigued with NASCAR as I was.

Since that race we’ve watched at least a portion of every NASCAR race on TV and the Indy 500 which wasn’t as interesting cause I really like the characters that race NASCAR. Our favorites have been Kyle Busch, Dale Earnhardt Jr., Tony Stewart (retiring after this year), Danica Patrick and Chase Elliott, Joey Logano and Trevor Bayne. Sadie Piper would really like Danica Patrick to win something, but she’s pretty excited when Danica gets in the top 20 and says she likes that Danica keeps trying!¬†
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Thank you Kyle and Brandi for making this happen and getting us into this redneck experience.

Summer Sledding

This was one of the things on our summer bucket list: ride the pedal cart down the sledding hills. (yep, Brian’s idea, not mine! The only part of the idea that was mine was “wear your helmet”)

Beckham volunteered to go first. I was impressed…cause let’s be honest, we aren’t exactly sure how this is going to go down.

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This was the smallest hill…

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It was slow enough for her to pose. So we moved to the middle sized hill.

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This hill went a little faster:

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Best picture of the entire day!

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Her faces were awesome!!!

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She made the same faces every time she went down!

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But she made it!

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Oh yeah, and just like sledding, you have to get the cart back UP the hill. Berkley was a non-contributing zero. Par for the course. June 2016

Beckham was yet again the first to try the straight down hill.

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He did it!

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Brian did the big hill

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I would only do the middle hill. And I insisted on borrowing Boo’s helmet.

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Brian was sore the next day. Best dad ever.

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This looks like a Mario Kart picture!

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They found the mud

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Here’s the fun video Brian made:

Summer Sledding In Manhattan, Kansas from Houghs on Vimeo.


Trampoline Fun

When we moved to Manhattan, I had an idea that I¬†wanted to see if Brian could get on board with: I wanted to get the kids a trampoline. Brian and I had never discussed one before, and I was ready with my reasons why we should consider it: good exercise for the kids, we want to be the house their friends want to come hang out with, and a trampoline would be a draw for many years. But I knew my biggest point was going to be¬†“they are so much safer now with the nets!”

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So when I approached him and said “Ok, I want to suggest something, hear me out. What do you think about getting a trampoline?” and he immediately said “Sure, I think that’s a great idea” yet I still proceeded to explain to him my reasons, cause I can’t waste that effort I put into my argument…and he heard me out and said “I feel like you are the one who needed the convincing, not me. Think about the two of us Laura, who is more concerned with safety?”

Well, that’s an excellent point you have there Brian.

So we have a trampoline. And one that Brian said was like a “huge pack n play it’s so safe in there” when he assembled it.

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And it’s one of those things we still agree was a great purchase.

The kids play on it a lot, but their favorite is when Brian comes out with them. Cause he throws balls at them and makes it a game. And who doesn’t love being hit with a ball?

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I’m sensing a little taunting from SP in this one

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Also, it’s been great for playing with bullfrogs in.

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Why is she ok putting this frog so close to her face?!?

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I taught Sadie Piper Psalm 1 and she ruined my day

(This is originally by Brian from 2012…stumbled upon it and thought I’d share again.)

‚ÄúBlessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; 2 but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. 3 He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. 4 The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away.¬†¬†Psalm 1:1‚Äď4

Sadie Piper made a very interesting point about ministry to me today and she has no idea she did. Here’s how it happened.

When Beckham graduated from Children’s Church they gave him an ESV Children’s Bible. It’s the actual text of Scripture rather than an abridged version with only stories. Problem is he reads at a 12th grade Arkansas level, which of course is a 1st Grade Kansas level so there are not many words in it he has a grasp on.

He likes to bring it to the Worship service at Redeemer and flip through it, but he has really wanted us to read it to him during the service. I told him we’ll read it later and then¬†for awhile in a disappointing father way I did not read it to him. Mostly just¬†forgetting¬†about it, but also with some dumb idea that he wouldn’t be able to track with what I read.

So this week at breakfast I began to¬†read and explain Psalm 1 to Becks and Sadie Piper. It’s only day two and I¬†can’t¬†guarantee¬†day three will happen so¬†don’t be too impressed. Anyway, the plan was to read them a chapter a day. Day one we finished two verses and I only kinda think they understood.

Best I remember, the first two verses by the end of talking were¬†reduced¬†to… the man who wants to be happy should not listen to the bad advice of people who don’t love God. But they should love God’s Word and they should think about God’s Word as much as they can.

This¬†morning was day two and we read verses 3 & 4. I’ve learned already that they learn better from my asking questions about the text than just my talking.

So our verses read like this, “He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away.‚ÄĚ

I told them God is comparing one thing to another to teach us¬†something.¬†Like¬†I might say Beckham is as fast as a lion. Do I think Beckham is a lion? No. I’m just trying to tell you I think Beckham is¬†really¬†fast.

The following is lacking rabbit trails and completely unrelated comments that make the whole experience funnier. 

So I asked Beckham and Sadie Piper

РWhat do trees need to grow? Water

– So what happens if I plant a tree in the desert?¬†It won’t grow cause there is no water¬†(don’t get caught up in the details)

– Do you know what a stream of water is?¬†lakes, ponds, creeks,¬†“really really really long lakes”

РSo if a tree needs water and you plant it next to a lake what do you think will happen? It grow big big big, Becks even rose in his chair to show me how big they grow.

So God is telling us that the person who loves God’s Word and who thinks about God’s Word all the time will grow up strong¬†like¬†a tree planted next to water.

– What would happen if you went outside and tried to push our tree over?¬†It wouldn’t move because it’s too big.

– Y’all know what chaff is?¬†No.

– Me neither, but I know it’s kinda like those leaves (we are looking¬†out¬†back window at leaves we’ve failed to rake up at this point, they may even be from Fall 2011), dead pieces of plant that are not connected¬†anywhere. What would happen if you pushed on them?¬†We could pick them up.

– What happens if the wind blows a tree?¬†Nothing.¬†Why not?¬†It’s big and strong.

РWhat happens if the wind blows those leaves? Crazy Talk, I lead them to see that the leaves will go wherever the wind blows because they are not strong.

So that was fun, but then Sadie Piper kinda ruined my day when she said this afterwards,

“Dad, we could fill up buckets of water and¬†pour them on our tree so it will grow bigger.”¬†(because our tree is not planted by a stream of water)

Hmm… My head is already thinking analogies¬†and¬†it occurs to me what she just said is a bit of what we actually are doing.

I think of how much time I spend in God’s Word (sometimes great, other times pathetic) I think about the way many of our youth at Heritage and Redeemer function in this¬†analogy.

We talk about being in God’s word, being planted next to a stream of water like we see in Psalm 1 and while we aren’t necessarily in a desert (some of us at some times are) we are often planted in fields away from water.

So what do we do to minister to youth who are not delighting in God’s Word and who are not meditating on God’s Word (Psalm 1:2)?

In a sense we fill up a bucket of water, of God’s Word, and we pour it on them. We pour a bucket on them Sunday morning, we pour a bucket on them if they come to youth group, we pour a bucket on them in Chapel¬†and¬†a bucket in Bible Class.

I know this well because I fill these bucket and I lug these buckets¬†and¬†I pour out these buckets (along with many others) and I see that it is good for some, they grow. But for other students, it’s like throwing water on hard soil where only some of the water ever soaks in. My prayers are often filled with a plea for God to soften the soil¬†and¬†cause growth. If you’ve actually read this far I ask that you would pray too for covenant children,¬†particulary¬†those in their teens.

So, all this lugging of water works ok, but I guess the real concern here is what happens when we are no longer there to pour buckets of Scripture on them a few days a week?

Maybe you see now why Sadie Piper ruined my day.

I want so badly to see our students like trees planted along side streams of water, rooted in the Word of God. Delighting and meditating on that which gives vision to what really matters in life. I desire this for our students and the lugging and pouring and lugging and pouring of water, while good, is not the end goal.

The bigger question is this: How do we help to dig up these trees where we find them and plant them next to the river?

I’d love to hear other people’s ideas on this, but here is where I’m at right now.¬†

1. We’ll need prayer, for illumination, for soft soil, for love of God’s Word.
2. We’ll need parents who read the Word with their children, who will¬†encourage their children to spend time in the Bible with as much¬†diligence¬†as¬†they encourage finishing homework and sports and cleaning their rooms.
3. We’ll need older believers and younger Christians and peers in¬†their life pointing them ever back to Scripture for everything.
4. We as parents will need to be sure we are planted personally next to the river. After all, the normal way God works is a lot like an acorn falling from a tree. Be planted near the water that brings delight.
5. And we’ll need more buckets and more people lugging it to the trees who simply aren’t planted near streams of water.

Note:¬†I admit there may be errors in this analogy, I don’t hold on to it¬†like¬†I do Scripture, but I find analogies help me understand and felt I ought to¬†share it¬†with you as well.

Little Apple Pedal

Manhattan Park and Rec organized a really fun family friendly bike ride event this Spring! (Beckham was at his Jr Zookeeper training, so it was just us and the girls!)

They had a run bike rodeo (which was code for “check to make sure everyone’s brakes work” in a fun way!)

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Then when you passed that they made you a “bike license.”


I’m pretty sure it was meant for kids, but what adult¬†could pass that up?!

This cracked me up cause I didn’t even mean to photo bomb this pic, but there’s no denying I did!

They had helmet fittings (and even had free ones there if you needed one!)

We introduced girls to Smokey the Bear! They had never heard of him before…what kind of parents are we!?

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Little Apple Pedal 2016Then there was a 6 mile bike ride!

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Sades and her sweet friend Ava  Little Apple Pedal 2016

We stopped about halfway to regroup and for snacks and potty break

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Then we got popcorn on the way out…and we laughed cause the girls wore their helmets the whole way home. Safety first!

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Chick-fil-a love

Our Manhattan CFA has had some really great events!

Mother Son Date Knight, the theme was Narnia!:

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This one was AWESOME: Stuffed Animal Sleep over. You take your stuffed animal to CFA on Friday night, make them a sleep mask and name tag, and tuck them into the tent!

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They had quite the crazy night, and the CFA staff documented it and made EACH kid a photo book of their stuffed animal’s adventures!

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You pick your friend up the next morning, kids thought this was the best!!

This picture was on the entry way into the store advertising Daddy Daughter night; Brian and Berkley were excited they made the cut…Sadie Piper pipes in “HEY! My arm made it!!” It was just like that last scene in Monsters, Inc when Mike W gets so excited about making the cover of the magazine even when his face is covered by the UPC!

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Thanks CFA for being the best!